Spiritual Direction: Infinitus Explorations

Please note: Spiritual direction services described here are fee-based, non-sectarian, non-proselytizing, and are available to all, whether or not you are Christian. Infinitus Explorations, Willow's spiritual direction practice, is separate from the Infinitus Community, a post-denominational and independent faith community.

How does it work?

Typically, spiritual direction is a series of open-ended sessions that are about 90 minutes each in length and take place in an interval of four to eight weeks.

While one of the goals of spiritual direction is the refining of discernment, it is non-judgmental, inclusive, and accepting of all human diversity and all walks of life.

Active listening sessions hold an intentional space for you to voice your thoughts. Primarily, this is about helping you listen to your inner voice by helping you navigate the complex world of thoughts and emotions. Through pointed, clarifying questions, you will discover yourself in a new and unexpected way, opening yourself to find divine directions within.

This is not a psychotherapy or proselytizing session. While it is somewhat similar in format, it also differs from "personal coaching" sessions or pastoral counseling.

• More about how spiritual direction differs from pastoral counseling, "life coaching" or psychotherapy (external link).

Adapted for neurodiversity.

Most spiritual direction sessions in the neurotypical community are in-person or sometimes over the phone.

Recognizing that computer-mediated communications are often the preferred choice of our community (source), and that in-person or phone sessions could be difficult and potentially anxiety-inducing, Infinitus Explorations' spiritual direction sessions are available via Signal or SimpleX -- and even by encrypted email.

Furthermore, you'll be glad to know that you'll be talking with an autistic person who can relate to your lived experiences. A 2019 scientific study in Scotland confirms what we've vaguely known: there is a form of social intelligence that is specific to autistic people (source).

Privacy and confidentiality matter.

As your spiritual director, I take your privacy seriously. To the extent possible, all electronic communications with you will be encrypted. I don't ask for personal information that is not relevant to spiritual direction. 

Our spiritual direction covenant

These are the agreements we hold to co-create a meaningful spiritual companionship.

This covenant is an agreement between you and me to set the ground rules and parameters of engagement.

• "Spiritual direction" supports you in deepening your faith/spiritual life. Despite the word "direction," I am not here to give you a direction. Rather, I use active listening and thought-provoking questions to help you explore and clarify your belief systems, your values, and your goals. The result is greater self-knowledge, a better grasp of your values and beliefs, deeper discernment abilities, and stronger mastery of your mind.

• Spiritual direction works best in the context of conversation and listening carried out in a trusting relationship. The primary interest of spiritual direction is your experience of the Sacred and how you can follow the higher calling. That process is a spiritual journey into the greater truth, yourself, your relationships, your work, and the world.

• The fundamental premise of spiritual direction is that you are a unique expression of God, and the process of spiritual direction is to bring out the clarity and self-knowledge about how God is expressed in you.

• My work is to facilitate your path to self-discovery, not to "fix" you or to "analyze" you. I am not here to proselytize or to judge whether your beliefs are right or wrong.

• I recommend a minimum of four sessions, held in an interval of four weeks. Thereafter, follow-up sessions may be arranged quarterly or semi-annually, depending on your needs. Every six months, we evaluate whether you are genuinely benefiting from spiritual direction and whether to continue or discontinue.

• The standard fees for your initial and subsequent sessions are as published on the fee chart, or its equivalent at current exchange rates. The fee must be received by the start of each session through an agreed-upon payment method (your session will be automatically cancelled if payment is not received by 30 minutes prior to your appointment); however, If you opt for anonymity, the fee will be payable when booking your session instead. Limited fee reduction and trades are available for those in need.

• Payment methods: Cash (in person), money orders, checks (except for new clients), or major cryptocurrencies (BTC, BCH, LTC, DOGE, XMR, or XNO only). Contact me for alternative payment methods or barter options if either option is not possible. 

Ground rules

Confidentiality: Everything that is shared in your sessions will stay in the sessions. I keep extremely minimal records; all records will be encrypted, and nothing will be divulged. All records will be destroyed after 90 days of inactivity (counted from the last session). If you prefer encrypted email communication, I recommend Mailfence, Tutanota, or ProtonMail. Having said that, however, the nature of digital communications is such that a risk of information breach and data leak is always present. Therefore, notwithstanding our best efforts, total confidentiality cannot be guaranteed in case of malware and spyware infiltration, software and server failures, third-party interception of Internet traffic, hacking, or password theft.

Synchronous versus asynchronous sessions: Because not everyone is able to do live chat, asynchronous sessions are also available upon request. Asynchronous sessions will be through encrypted email, and each "session" for this purpose will be a seven-day period. During this time, I will present you with a set of questions and/or prompts for you to use, and you can respond at your leisure within the seven-day period. The fee for a seven-day asynchronous session is the same as a 90-minute synchronous ("live") session.

Cancellation and rescheduling: If you need to reschedule or cancel any synchronous session (i.e., live chat), you must notify Willow by email by no later than 24 hours in advance. Conversely, your session may be cancelled with a 24-hour notice if I am ill or if I have some urgent matters to attend to. We use the North American Pacific Time Zone (same as Vancouver and San Francisco). Fees are non-refundable but will be applied toward the next session if you cancel no later than 24 hours before the scheduled session. If you cancel within 24 hours of your session or if you "flake out," you will forfeit the fees paid.

Inappropriate conduct: While I recognize the diversity of sexuality and how sexuality may play an important role in people's spiritual life (and I am fairly kink-friendly), spiritual direction is not a forum for overly sexualized or sexually explicit interactions. If I determine that your conduct is becoming inappropriate at any point, I reserve the right to terminate your session and discontinue any further sessions. Additionally, any abusive conduct, harassment, hate speech, threats of violence, suicide or self-harm, etc., will have absolutely no place in our spiritual direction sessions and will not be tolerated. It is the intention of Infinitus Explorations to create an intentionally safe space for everyone.

Support between sessions: You are welcome to email Willow at any time between sessions with questions, feedback, prayer requests, or anything else. However, it may take a few days before a response. 

Suicide, self-harm, and mental health emergencies: Please be aware that this is NOT a mental health service and is NOT a substitute for appropriate healthcare. If you're experiencing a severe mental health crisis, we may suspend our spiritual direction sessions until you have sufficiently recovered. If you are seeking urgent mental health help, check out findahelpline.com. Oregon residents can also call the Oregon Warmline, 1-800-698-2392, for intentional peer support.

Waiver of liabilities: By participating in spiritual direction, you expressly indicate your agreement that you are aware that spiritual direction is in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling or any other type of therapy or medical, legal, or financial advice. You participate with a full understanding that I will not be liable legally or otherwise for the actions you may or may not undertake as a result of the spiritual direction sessions. No assumption of responsibility is made, or given, and the client requesting such advice agrees not to hold me responsible or liable in any form or fashion. Nothing in spiritual direction sessions that is given in any manner whatsoever, written or verbal, constitutes an agreement or liability on the part of the provider and is acknowledged to be different in many ways from clinical and medical counseling. You agree that using any of Infinitus Explorations' services is entirely at your own risk, and is provided "as is", without warranty of any kind, either expressed or implied, including, without limitation. This service is requested at your own choice and with inherent singular responsibility. 

One more thing, because it's the law: Willow is a member of the clergy, and this means the Oregon state law requires mandatory reporting of anyone who is suspected of child abuse or elder abuse. If Willow knows that you live in Oregon and it comes to Willow's attention that you may be engaging in child or elder abuse, you will be reported to the Oregon Department of Human Services. You are warned.

Other providers

Depending on who you are, I may not be the right person to talk to. I get that. I do not assume that I am the best or even qualified spiritual director for everyone. I might seem too "Christian" to some, too "worldly" to others; too "leftist" to some, too "conservative" to others. Some people are drawn to someone who is different from them, which can give them new and fresh perspectives, while others prefer to work with people from similar backgrounds or cultures.

For these reasons, I am happy to refer you to another (although the list I have is very small at this time) provider if I feel that would be more beneficial to you.

Spiritual direction fee chart

The fees are set in order to cover expenses, support my livelihood so as to allow me to concentrate on this work (while also furthering my education), and to fund free services to the general public, such as educational media content. In order to make this service accessible to all who need it, I have established equity-based pricing as follows. Please note that these tiers are self-reported suggestions. I do not require or collect any supporting documentation in the interest of upholding client privacy and to safeguard personal data.

Tier A:

You have unstable or no housing, you work multiple jobs, are unemployed, and/or on public and/or private charitable assistance; you are struggling to make ends meet; you are a refugee, newly arrived immigrant, or undocumented immigrant; and/or you are a full-time (8 credit hours or more) student. 

• Initial session (90 minutes): $20.00 USD

• Subsequent session (60 minutes): $5.00-10.00 USD

Tier B:

You are part of the "working class," have a stable housing, a steady income, and some money left for entertainment.

• Initial session (90 minutes): $75.00 USD

• Subsequent session (60 minutes): $50.00 USD

Tier C:

You are part of the "middle class," have a full-time career job and steady income, can afford regular vacations, and you can either afford to rent a luxury apartment or a house, or are a homeowner.

• Initial session (90 minutes): $125.00 USD

• Subsequent session (60 minutes): $100.00 USD

Tier D:

Any of the following: You derive a large percentage of your income from investment and other unearned wealth. You are a landlord or own multiple homes (such as a vacation home and your regular home). You are a part or sole owner of a business that employs more than 10 people. You can afford regular vacations abroad.

• Initial session (90 minutes): $300.00 USD

• Subsequent session (60 minutes): $250.00 USD

For Tiers A and B, trades of goods or services equal to the values of the posted fees are also welcome. Please inquire for details.

Fees for classes and groups are determined and announced separately.

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